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12 Compliments Men Go Absolutely Crazy For

A compliment can make any man feel incredible, but how often do they hear them?

The Kind of Compliments Men Crave

Guys don’t usually compliment each other, and yet every man craves a sincere, well-timed compliment, and it can produce incredible effects.

Your guy will still be thinking about that really nice thing you told him long after you’ve said it. He’ll feel like you know and understand him better than anyone else, and he never want to let you go.

Here are 12 kinds of compliments men absolutely can’t resist…

1. Tell him how you love his voice

Whether he’s a high tenor with a swoon-worthy singing voice, a rumbling bass, or anything in between, tell him how much you enjoy the sound of his voice.

Whether or not he can hold his own with Bono, tell him what it does to you when you hear his voice as he holds you to his chest… When you pick up the phone and it’s him… Tell him how your skin comes alive when he says your name…

Voice-related compliments men love:

  • Your voice is so masculine. It gives me sexy chills.
  • I love picking up the phone and hearing that it’s you. Your voice is so comforting.
  • There’s something about your voice that gets me every time…

2. Invite him to tell you about his passion

I know a guy who has an absolute passion for wooden boats. He subscribes to a special magazine, has built a wooden boat in his garage, and avidly studies wooden boat restoration, repairs, and maintenance.

All this has absolutely nothing to do with his paying work – he’s a ranch hand and takes care of horses – but when he talks about wooden boats he can light the biggest, darkest old barn with his intensity and pleasure.

What’s your man’s passion? Ask him to tell you about it. Watch him give off sparks.

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Passion-related compliments men can really get into:

  • So how complicated is to brew your own beer? I would love to hear all about it.
  • How did you get into ham radio (chess, gardening, guitar, classic motorcycles)?
  • You are an amazing cook! How did you learn all this?

3. Compliment his physique or physical appearance

This is a bit of a no-brainer, but ladies, it works like magic.

His hair – the way he distractedly rumples it and makes your heart do burpees… His perfect jawline, or gorgeous lips. The line of his shoulders, and the way they fill out that blue chambray shirt he wears on the weekends… The fine curve of his backside, the place where that dark vee of hair leads to his belt buckle. Mmm, honey.

We could be here all day naming our favorite man bits. So share some of the goods you see and make him grin with pleasure.

This also works great when OTHER women check him out, by the way. Yep, that’s what I said. When you see other ladies eyeballing your man, let him know how good it makes you feel to be with such a sexy guy.

Appearance and body-related compliments for him:

  • You look so handsome in that tie. Every woman loves a sharp-dressed man. And I have the sexiest one.
  • I have a hard time not staring at your a** in those jeans, baby…
  • You weren’t kidding when you said you’ve been working out!
  • You are six kinds of hot…

4. Compare him to a famous male celebrity

Does his courage remind you of Jeremy Renner in that Bourne Legacy film you loved?

Maybe he’s cuter than Jimmy Fallon, smarter than Colin Firth, or sexier than Bruno Mars.

Next time you’re browsing movie titles, your Netflix queue, or the latest People magazine, think how your fave celebs remind you of your fave man.

Celebrity comparison compliments men are gonna love:

  • Your shoulders in that shirt! You could have beat out Chris Hemsworth for the Thor role with those shoulders.
  • Justin Timberlake should borrow some of your moves, baby. You make a woman’s head spin.
  • Baby, you’re hotter than Joe Manganiello.

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5. Ask for his help or advice

A man loves to feel needed by the woman he adores. So let him feel it. Ask him for his help or advice.

And please don’t misunderstand. You’re incredibly smart. You’re a lifelong learner. You can carry your own damn luggage, and walk yourself safely to your car at night. You are unbelievably strong and fully capable of taking (excellent) care of yourself, whether you’re facing down a drunk at the bar or dealing with the car salesman who’s trying to make a buck off you.

You are an amazing woman, and when you invite him to showcase his own amazingness, you BOTH win.

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Requests for help that are actually the kinds of compliments men adore:

  • I’m not sure. What do you think I should do?
  • This cable is insanely tangled up and knotted. Could you help me untangle it?
  • The crowd in front of the bar must be four people deep. Do you think you could make your way through to get us some drinks?

6. Stare at him with that dreamy smile on your face

Stare at him like he’s the most luxurious slice ever of Italian cream cake with cream cheese coconut frosting and chopped hazelnuts. Drizzled with apricot sauce. All for you.

Stare at him like he’s Brock O’Hurn with no shirt, tying his hair into a man bun. Like he’s Ewan McGregor in a kilt.

And let him catch you doing it.

Then tell him why you can’t keep your eyes (hands, lips) off of him.

Yummy man compliments:

  • Sorry, I totally lost my train of thought, staring at your, um, abs.
  • I have trouble thinking straight when you look like that. You give me very naughty thoughts.
  • I hope you’re not gonna put your shirt on. Not just yet, anyway.

7. Compliment his driving

Why is driving such a man thing? Something about tons of metal hurtling through space, I guess. Is your man great at parallel parking? Does he graciously allow cars to merge in front of him without going mental? Does he make you feel safe in the car?

Then let him know! Tell him how much you appreciate the way he drives, whether he drives a beat-up junker or a luxury sedan.

Driving compliments men like:

  • You make me feel incredibly safe and taken care of.
  • I can’t believe how easy you make it look to parallel park on a busy downtown street. Impressive.
  • I just love your smooth driving style. I never worry with you driving us.

8. Compliment his taste

I know two men who are brilliant with clothes; they just have an innate sense of what fits and looks amazing. Neither one has the money to dress like a superstar, and yet they always seem to look incredibly well put together.

Does your man have great taste in movies, a well-developed design esthetic, or just a way with making the space he lives in warm and comforting?

What about the friends he surrounds himself with?

Compliment his taste and let him know you know how special he is.

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Compliments related to his awesome taste:

  • The house looks phenomenal. And you did all the renovations and design work yourself! You’re amazing.
  • This was an great film you brought me to. How did you know I would like it so much?
  • Your friends are fantastic. They made me feel welcome and included.
  • What are you wearing? You smell so good.

9. Compliment his manliness

Catch him being your “knight in shining armor” and tell him how cared for and cherished that makes you feel.

I know you don’t NEED someone to walk you to your car, climb out on the roof to clean the gutters, or open that jar for you, but isn’t it nice to have it anyway?

Compliment his protective instincts, his fearlessness, his repair skills, or his gallantry and make him feel like a superhero. YOUR superhero. The two of you make a great super team!

Manly compliments men love:

  • You are fearless, aren’t you? I’m so glad I’m trying this for this first time with a man like you.
  • You are the strongest (bravest, toughest) man I’ve ever met.
  • Wow, women can’t keep their eyes off you! I’m the luckiest lady in the world to have a guy like you.

10. Tell him how you admire the work he does

Some of the men in my extended family are masterful carpenters and stonemasons. They have built one-room log cabins that feel almost magically cozy and comforting, as well as celebrity mansions where they had million-dollar budgets and could let their creativity run unrestrained.

Tell him how much you admire the way he does his work, whether he’s a x-ray technician who helps calm his patients’ fears and nervousness, a teacher who believes art should be supported in elementary schools, or a scientist who is working to figure out how to save an endangered species.

Work-related compliments for your man:

  • You can pretty much fix anything, huh? It’s impressive how you make a complicated job look so easy.
  • I have so much respect for you. Not just anybody could do the kind of work you do.
  • You really know how to put people at ease.

11. Tell him how amazing he is in bed

Every man wants to be able to help a woman lose herself in pleasure with him.

Tell him how electric he makes your skin feel, how big he feels inside you, how spent you are after the two of you climax.

Let him know when he does something you especially like, and even send him texts or messages that let him know you’re still thinking of that time last night when he…

Lovemaking compliments men crave:

  • Mmm, you are so big.
  • I can’t stop thinking about last night…
  • You really know how to turn me on.
  • I’ve never met a man like you. That was incredible.

12. Compliment his smarts

It doesn’t matter whether he graduated summa cum laude, there are ways your man uses his brain that you can admire.

Compliment an important decision he made, his resourcefulness in solving a particular problem, or how he surrounds himself with other smart people (hey, one of those is YOU!).

He may not always be successful. After all, everyone makes mistakes. But not everyone learns from their mistakes and move on to bigger and better things.

Tell him how much you admire that in him.

Intelligence-related compliments men love:

  • Of course you got the job! You’re great at what you do, and people trust you because of it. I’m really impressed and proud.
  • Thank you so much for listening and letting me vent.
  • You made me feel understood and cherished. And your thoughtful comments helped me figure out what I need to do next.
  • I had NO idea how that would work. But you seemed to figure it out right away. I love how smart you are.
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19 comments on “12 Compliments Men Go Absolutely Crazy For

  1. Awwwwww, thanks for this delightful article, Claire! I felt totally warm and fuzzy inside reading it, and the inspiration is very helpful! Aaaaand you managed to mention both Joe Manganiello AND Brock O’Hurn?!?! In the same post? I think I might just swoon… 😀 Luckily, I also swoon for my man (whose smarts, music, and chest hair I make a point of admiring out loud aaaaall the time… though I think his favorite compliment of all time was “Mmmm, I love it when you talk nerdy to me, darling’…”)

    • Claire Casey

      Lol! I love the compliments — both to me 🙂 and the (nerds rule!) one you gave your man. It’s always fun to hear from you, Juilia!

  2. I’m just wondering what a woman does when she absolutely does and uses each and everyone of these compliments…and something isn’t fitting together.. I never hear anything nice at all about myself coming from him…but I honestly compliment this man daily ..always.. I’m really co fused and thrown off..any advice ladies?

  3. And I know what to say and when to sat these things… Because I want to make him feel good and appreciated..I like to lift him up. But I’m not getting anything in return only if I prompt him to do so. How sick is that.

    • Claire Casey

      Hi, crissy, thanks for taking the time to read and comment.

      And yes, it sounds like you do have a problem. You said you have “prompted” him to compliment you as well — does that mean you’ve had a straight-up conversation about how receiving a compliment makes you feel? Because it’s possible he simply doesn’t know, and needs to be told directly and clearly (in a loving way).

      Here are a couple of articles that may help you as you think about doing this:

      1. How to talk to him and get your needs met:
      http://askclairecasey.com/how-to-talk-to-him-good-communication/

      2. How to learn each other’s “love language”
      http://askclairecasey.com/super-glue-of-love/

      You really CAN have an impact on this situation. My very best to you as you work at this issue together.

      • Oh yes many many times..over the last several months…I was very clear each and every time and told him exactly what j needed from him..and vise versa. He says he’ll work on it and make changes but that last about two days if I’m lucky. There is some familiar behavior that I have recognized also..such as manipulation..lies..he’s very self centered and selfish 90% of the time..sex is all about him every time..and we’ve talked about that as well for months and months..and nothing ever changes. He makes empty promises. No consistency at all with him and I’m very concerned because now there is emotional abuse in the picture very often and he makes everything seem like its my fault.. He blames me for his behavior.. He does no wrong period. Very emotionally detached from me. And seems to need to have power over everything. I know this is not a good scenario.. I’m smart I just need some validation from someone that is on the outside looking in. Love is blind and I’m confused and alone. Plz help thank you.

        • Claire Casey

          My heart is breaking for you, crissy. As you have already figured out, your situation isn’t really about getting compliments from the man you love, it’s much, much bigger and more painful than that.

          You have so many red flags here. Manipulation, lack of trust, bad sexual relationship, blaming, emotional detachment… I wish I could hug you hard, beautiful woman.

          I don’t think you are “confused” like you said in your comment: you sound pretty clear to me. And you’re not alone. It’s time to call in your support network and get serious help. Because it doesn’t sound like there’s much love between you and your man right now.

          And take heart! It feels big and scary, but if both parties are willing to work hard, even the worst situations can be turned around toward healing.

          Get help — professional (if you can afford it) or from a trusted friend or mentor. Your heart and the life and love you dream of is worth it.

          Much love to you as you work to move forward…

        • Crissy,

          This guy and everything you’ve said reminds me of my relationship with my ex husband. It turns out he has Narcissistic Personality Disorder. If you google “gaslighting” and Narcissistic Personality Disorder, this might help give you clarity. At least you will be able to rule it out.

          My short answer is, You deserve better, so why stay with him a second longer? Don’t be afraid like I was. You CAN find a man who will love you and appreciate you. I found an amazing soulmate and am so happy. Being with a man who is a giver instead of a taker is like a whole new world. I just wish I had not waited so long to leave my ex so I could be with a man who loves me and lifts me up.

  4. What happens when you say some of those things, but it isn’t like you two are in a relationship. It isn’t like it changes the relationship…

    • Claire Casey

      Hi, Lannie — Even if you two aren’t technically a couple, making another person feel appreciated and cared for does build your relationship. But it’s definitely not a magic wand, just another of the many small things that can help make things beautiful between two people… 🙂

  5. What should one do in a situation where a compliment is given & received yet, no reaction or appreciation is given? I can give my man of seven years a compliment and he acts as though it’s expected…therefore, making me feel as though it’s not really appreciated.

    • Claire Casey

      Great question, Becca, thanks for asking.

      And in my experience, when a sincere, well-considered compliment gets a “meh” reaction like that, it may be because admiration isn’t one of his love languages. For example, I like a compliment, but when my man does the dishes, or cleans the bedroom, THAT’S a big deal. Because “acts of service” is one of my top love languages. I’ve written an article about that here:

      http://askclairecasey.com/super-glue-of-love/

      It’s worth checking out! 🙂

      xoxo CC

  6. I read this the other day and did try it out.. we were talking and I was asking about his muscles, feeling his arms ( which are very strong!). Well one thing lead to another on about 15 min!!

  7. Wow! I really stink at relationships, I never did any of these compliments. Being married at 20, and divorced at 45….starting fresh I guess I’m new to this ball game of dating. Maybe that’s why he disappeared after 4 months. Ugh!!!

    • Claire Casey

      Hi, Wafa

      Thanks for taking the time to read and comment. I’m glad you came!

      And in response to your comment, I wanted to tell you that relationship breakups usually have more than one root cause.

      Many men (and women) DO respond well to having someone sincerely compliment them, and it’s not a bad tool to have in your relationship toolkit.

      But there are other things that are important too. For example, a high level of trust, making each other one of your top 3 priorities, doing the things that make each other feel loved (compliments might be a part of that, but so can other things).

      Here’s an article that might be helpful:
      http://askclairecasey.com/quiz-is-this-the-man-for-me/

      I hope you’ll find love again soon!

      xoxo
      Claire

  8. I used all of that on my emotionally unavailable man. It made him feel good but not enough to be with me.
    I used non of that on other man and he fell in love with me…
    I don’t get it 🙂

    • Claire Casey

      Hi, Lucy — An emotionally unavailable man is just that: unavailable. I’ve written an article about dealing with guys like this here: http://askclairecasey.com/deal-emotionally-unavailable-man/

      But when you’re falling in love with a man who as also open to falling in love with you, well! There’s plenty of good chemistry and magic already! 🙂 Good for you for finding a man to love. I’d bet he’s very much like many men are, and appreciates a sincere compliment from you now and then.

      My best to you! xoxo

  9. Hi Claire, Chrisy here, I’m dating a wonderful guy for about 8 months now whom I have know for more than a year. I frankly have never met a guy like him. We are Christians so we avoided sex and and has only done a light kiss a few weeks ago, he told me that he doesn’t give compliments although he has given me quite a few compliments. He wants to see me regular but avoids doing so because he says is so attracted to me and if we are around each other he will want sex, he told me how much he wants to intimate and how much he’s hurting but because he doesn’t want to mess me up or himself by sinning. One relative of his says she’s never seen a guy like him. So faithful even though he’s craving sex and intimacy. I have proven that myself too. we both love each other we talked about getting married, he wants a relationship so badly but he’s still married and the divorce isn’t finalized, he’s been separated about 4 years now. He wants to marry me and says I make him happy again.

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