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What an Emotionally Exhausted Woman Needs to Hear

Sometimes you start to feel like EVERY day is a bad day. You’re long past “stressed” and on your way to burnout. You are 100% emotionally exhausted. What now?

5 messages every emotionally exhausted woman needs to hear…

Here are 5 simple messages to read and gently take in, like the dry, soft ground takes in a summer rain.

1. Everything you need to heal is within you.

There isn’t a drug or magic wand or “weird tip” that will fix all this. Everything you need to heal your emotional exhaustion is already within you.

It’s like an upside-down jar filled with liquid peace; you just have to figure out how to gently unscrew the lid and let that soothing, healing balm spread over your soul.

That’s what the next four messages are all about.
Emotionally Exhausted

2. Let go.

It’s time to say no, drop the ball, withdraw from some — or maybe a lot — of the responsibilities you’ve taken on. Yes, some things will go undone. Some things will break. But the important things will come back together eventually.

Letting go is the only way you can free some space to allow healing to take place.

So let go.

3. Grieve your losses.

When you are emotionally exhausted, you can’t go into your healing thinking that you can keep everything the same, because you can’t. Some things need to end in order for you to heal.

And in many cases, that means things will be left undone. Things will stop happening. Some things will fall apart. This needs to happen.

It’s perfectly okay to feel sad about all the things that are going haywire, being lost, drifting away, or being left undone.

Later, after you’ve healed, you can begin to celebrate that it isn’t YOU who is irreparably broken.

But for now, be sad if you need to.

4. Ask for help.

When you constantly deny that you’re emotionally exhausted, you start to suffer emotionally. The truth is, you aren’t superwoman. And you weren’t meant to be.

You are one (beautiful) human woman, and you deserve support, encouragement, and loving assistance in the great journey of life.

Who can you call on for help? The sooner you ask, the sooner your healing will arrive.

5. Be patient.

Sometimes it takes TIME for your deepest emotional and spiritual needs to be met. Our culture tends to teach us that everything should be instant.

There’s a fast track to emotional exhaustion, but the path to emotional healing is slow and beautiful. It’s zen and starlight and the sound of waterfalls, and the feeling of being hugged by someone who loves you without reserve.

It takes time, but it’s well worth the slow, loving recovery.

Please don’t put off caring for yourself…

emotionally exhausted healingYou need to create clear healing space in your life and heart.

The constant clatter and demands in your head can keep you from getting still, finding your center, and recovering the woman you are and were meant to be.

A  gentle support system is as close as your mp3 player. It doesn’t cost anything, and if you’ve never considered hypnosis, I think you’ll find that it’s definitely worth trying.

–>Choose a free hypnosis MP3

Don’t put off caring for yourself.

Settle your heart, relax in a comfortable spot, and prepare yourself for healing and renewal…

These gentle, beautiful soundtracks are created by qualified hypnosis professionals, and you can click here to get a soundtrack of your choice free to try it out.

xoxo Claire

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20 comments on “What an Emotionally Exhausted Woman Needs to Hear

  1. I get so stressed out way to easily i need major help

    • Claire Casey

      Hi, tina. I hear ya, girlfriend. It is not hard to get massively in over your head, is it? And you and I both know how that kind of stress, over a long period of time, can really make you sick. I hope you’re finding things you can let go of, as well as close friends and mentors whom you can lean on. Don’t let things go until it’s too late. You deserve rest and healing. Take care of yourself, beautiful. xoxo

  2. Just reading this helped. I am going through huge medical issues and they still remain unresolved or even diagnosed after 15 years. I continue to get worse and have been told some pretty harsh things over the years. Finally the doctor’s are peeling back the layers to figure it out. God bless you for what you do!

    • Claire Casey

      Oh my, Trish, 15 years! You must be exhausted to your core. I hope you have friends and family to support you. And I’m very glad that you’re not giving up. We have so much medical knowledge these days; may your doctors SOON put all the puzzle pieces together and help you figure out your best path forward. Much love. xoxo

  3. Onix Banegas

    I lost my 20 year old son 3 years ago and I feel like I’m finally starting to grieve. Reading this helped in preparing recovery for me. Thank you!

    • Claire Casey

      Oh, Onix — I’m so sorry to hear about your loss. My heart is broken for you. I have three sons and can’t even imagine the depth of pain and horror a mother experiences in such circumstances.

      I’m so glad you took the time to read and comment, and I’m especially grateful that you got something useful out of my post.

      Deep love, Claire

  4. This came at the perfect time for me. I am a survivor to the core and push through whatever comes my way. For the last 2 years I have powered through a broken back, my son breaking both wrists, my fiancé losing his job, running my own business, going to school, my fiances son being a heroin addict and having to walk away from my whole life to start over. My business has dropped by 70%, my son failed the 8th grade this year, my 5 year relationship came to a violent end, and we are now living in a tiny place that is less than desirable. I have felt like such a failure the past 3 months because I haven’t gone into superwoman mode to deal with this storm that life has thrown at me. Reading this helped me understand that it’s ok because I’m actually healing. Thank you for this!

    • Claire Casey

      So glad to hear that you got this at the right time, but wow, Jessi, it sounds like everything crashed at once for you. So sorry to hear that. I hope you are able to get some support and help for yourself at this critical time. I’m glad you are a “survivor to the core” — keep believing in your own worth and keep caring for yourself as much as you possibly can. You gotta make it through all this, beautiful soul. Much love to you.

  5. Someone told me a couple days ago that whenever hardships occur in his life he says “Thank you for escorting me to where I need to be.” He has figured out that every problem, disaster, hardship that happens, is sent to move us out of a situation or teach us something. Since he has started seeing life this way, he gets through hardships easier and faster and his life has been getting better and better. He says looking at hardship and trying to find the lesson or where he needs to be instead of where he is…. “works every time. Every time.”

    • Claire Casey

      “Thank you for escorting me to where I need to be.” What a beautiful way to face difficult times, Josie. It IS much better to see what good can come out of a bad situation than to simply hate the bad situation…

  6. Michelle Himes

    Fathers day this year I lost my daddy to prostate cancer. He was my rock and I miss him terribly. I thought I would be able to cope but I’m not doing such a great job.
    My daughter graduated from high school immediately went into the military made it through basic training and she was going to have to redo her ait has cut ties from me for unknown reasons. She had a baby girl a week ago and I was basically uninvited to my granddaughters birthday I have yet to hold her.
    My youngest son is expecting a baby any day now.
    I’m not sleeping I’m mentally exhausted and I don’t know what to do. People have said if you need me call me. Well that hasn’t happened either.

    • Claire Casey

      Dear, beautiful Michelle.

      You’re carrying so many griefs. You lost your father, and the situation around your daughter and new grandbaby are so painful.

      And if you’re like most moms, you’re worried about the next grandbaby, too.

      That’s a LOT to carry.

      I hope you will reach out to a trusted friend, someone who loves you and has your best interest at heart. They probably won’t be able to “solve” things for you — that’s going to take lots of time and love and conversations — but they will be able to listen, support, and encourage you as you journey.

      You’re on a very difficult path. Please take great, good care of yourself.

  7. Lance's wife

    I lost my brother 9 years ago, my pet of seventeen years three years ago, my dad and grandmother this past October in the same week… in addition to that my husband cheated on me with his ” first love” and pretended to go to work one am , but, drove to Georgia (3 hours away) to meet her in a park and have unprotected sex in his work van. The day before Valentine’s Day. We have been through counseling and he has make considerable improvements… But, I recently found out that while with his Georgia Peach ( with five kids) he contacted he herpes and I recently tested positive around Valentine’s Day, their “anniversary”. Every day is a struggle and I am somewhat tortured by the hurt and resentment that I feels for the two of them and their selfish, immoral behavior. She claimed my husband was a “gift from God.” Wonder if her husband thought the same thing? Any words of wisdom?

    • Claire Casey

      Hey there.

      I’m so, so sorry to hear your heartbreaking story. A shattering affair on top of so much other life grief. I sincerely hope you have a good network of girlfriends and others you can rely on for a bit of support and love as you endure this terrible emotional storm.

      Regarding the affair — you have a miserable situation on your hands, but the good news is that many relationships experience physical and emotional affairs and actually recover and become stronger. It’s incredibly difficult, but there are ways to heal things between you.

      And I guess that’s what’s I’m wondering. It sounds like the two of you have decided to stay together, but you didn’t mention how your were setting your course for forward movement, or if you were getting the help you will definitely need…

      Meanwhile, here’s an article that my friend Bob Huizenga published on my site that may be helpful as you think and work toward recovery:

      http://askclairecasey.com/how-to-recover-from-infidelity-basket-case/

      Sending you hugs and much love and encouragement, no matter what you decide…

  8. 100% agree. I’ve been there and my healing took about 3 1/2 years. The journey was especially hard at first. Now, being on the other side for some time came the realization that it was necessary, beautiful, and the greatest gift I have given myself. My life took a complete 180 from what it was 6 years ago. Love, happiness, fulfillment and joy has replaced loneliness, depression, fear, and deep sadness. Heal and find yourself and the the best things in life will find you. Love & peace.

    • Claire Casey

      What a beautiful (and painful) story, Amy. Thanks for sharing and for reminding all of us of the hope that can rise on the other side of the storm. xoxo Claire

  9. I can relate to this article. Especially about not properly grieving over loss. My first major loss was my father Sept 20, 2008. He was diagnosed with lung cancer at stage IV, a month and half later, he died. My world came crashing down. I was 23 years old, I became resilient towards my mother, I didn’t talk to anyone, I just stopped caring. Four years later, I would lose my mom, unexpectedly. I have emotionally shut myself down, its been like that since I was a child. I had to grow up much faster than other children. Here I am five years old, taking care of my mother when she’s having an asthma attack, being 10 years old the doctors showing me how to inject my mother with medication and dress wounds that were to her bones. I became pregnant March of 2014, all I wanted was my mom, I’ve had dreams of her while I was pregnant. One of which, she was holding her first grand baby, I couldn’t see the child’s face, but my mom said it was a girl. July 30th of 2014, I lost my grandpa to lung cancer after being diagnosed the day before he passed. He stepped up after losing my parents, he was so happy for his new great grandbaby, I had planned out a special reveal for him, which I would find out the week after he passed. I was told after my grandpa passed, it would be a girl. Aug 6th, 2014 I had the reveal. The baby was a girl! After being shut down for so many years, having my daughter, she awakened something in me, I either forgot about or I’ve never felt before. I was feeling feelings and becoming emotional. I cried when she was born. Its been an on-going battle with PPD, but I just let myself feel when it comes to my daughter, other things not so much. But I’m working on it. I probably should seek help, but I can’t bring myself to it. I was also diagnosed with depression at the age of 13. But I will get there. Thank you for your article.

  10. 18 months ago experienced loss on many levels. In the wake of that, i realized that my choices and behaviors didn’t reflect my values. I was way out of alignment! After some intensive inner healing of both ancient and modern day wounds,. I have the strength and confidence to invite changes. Significant changes. I’m standing at those thresholds now. Trying to keep fear out of the driver’s seat. These 5 reminders will be invaluable for the journey ahead. So thankful for them. Peace!

    • Claire Casey

      Thresholds are so scary, aren’t they? You’re never sure if you are going to make it out that door, or stay locked inside. I’m so sorry for your deep pain and many layers of loss.

      I can hear the confidence in your words, as well as the fear. I’m cheering the confidence. May your journey bring you joy, when you’re ready to embrace it. xoxo

      • Yes, thresholds ARE scary and the tension between the fear of the unknown and the frustration of staying stuck is very real. Whether I feel ready or not, I’m stepping out–will figure out the lefts and the rights as I go. 🙂 Wanting the life alignment more than I’m afraid of the change it will require!

        Thanks for your encouraging words, Claire, and being a light for so many! You rock!

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