If you’re in a relationship crisis and wondering if your marriage is worth saving, there’s a quick and easy answer for you, AND a clear and simple way you can begin to find healing…
If your marriage is failing and you aren’t sure what to do now…
Hey Claire, my husband and I have separated recently after 6 years of marriage. He moved out to live with this other girl he says he’s in love with. I was devastated by this, so I found a friend who is willing to be my lover. I didn’t want a relationship with him more than a friend, but it grew. I still love my husband and we are thinking about fixing our marriage, but now I am confused, because the other guy treats me so much better than my husband… I need help to make a choice. – Gilli
Hi, Gilli. I can answer your question in one word: Yes.
Your marriage is worth saving.
MOST marriages are worth saving.
The struggle you’re experiencing is that there are so many choices that sometimes it looks like it would be easier to start over with someone new than to work through the problems with the one you chose originally.
You get to keep revising and re-working things as much as you need to in order to get the whole thing moving forward. And eventually, you’ll finish it and it will be a marvelous story of struggle and triumph. 🙂
You’ll be one of those inspiring, adorable old couples about whom everyone says “Awww! They’re still together…”
But if you typically end a relationship at the first (or tenth, or thirtieth) sign of trouble, after a few years you’ll have a bunch of unrelated first chapters, but no novel.
The #1 reason marriages begin to crumble…
The biggest reason relationships start to fall apart is this:
You don’t know or have not communicated what things make you feel most loved and cared for.
When that happens, one or both of you are not getting your most basic relationship needs met, and pretty soon, you feel like you’re stuck in a loveless situation.
Then the killing blow: you “settle.”
You don’t know exactly WHY things feel the way they do, so you just sort of make do and hope that it will work itself out. And sometimes it does.
But most of the time it takes a relationship storm to shake you awake again. Someone cheats, or begins to drink, or control and abuse issues come up.
But here’s the good news: It’s relatively SIMPLE to figure out what makes you feel loved.
I’ve written about it HERE, and I hope you’ll read it and figure out your “love language.” It’s one of the best investments you’ll ever make in yourself and your relationships.
The single biggest reason your marriage is worth saving…
Your marriage is worth saving if you are willing to do the work.
That’s all it is, really. Work. Not such a scary thing. And there are a couple of critical factors:
- Figuring out the important problems, without getting distracted by all the other problems (or the crazy circus of emotions involved).
- Doing the work of solving the important problems.
Most relationship gurus will tell you that BOTH of you have to be willing to start doing the work.
However, in my (actual, real, personal) experience, if even ONE of you is willing to BEGIN the work, it can be almost like magic… And yes, the marriage can be saved.
Maybe not every time. But it’s worth trying, if you want to stay married.
Does your relationship seem hopeless? PLEASE don’t give up until you’ve tried this.
You need to stick together through the hard things in life, and to do that, you need to be able to communicate with each other really well, and be able to move through problems together, rather than feeling like only one of you is carrying the burdens, and get help when you need it.
And you also just have to be patient as you work. Big problems may not be “fixed” in a day or a week or even a month.
Which is tough when you haven’t had a good night’s sleep in two years because the baby still won’t sleep through the night, I know.
You CAN save your marriage (and it’s worth fighting for!)
If you’re heading towards divorce, or even if you’re already at that point…
Then a new video by marriage coach Brad Browning will show you how to stop the downward spiral and breathe some life back into your relationship.
Your marriage IS worth saving, beautiful heart.
I wish I could convince every couple experiencing a marriage crisis to watch this new video… Because the strategies Brad reveals in it are extremely powerful and can be the difference between “unhappily divorced” and “happily ever after.”
The best part is that you can apply the techniques described in his video on your own… without your husband even being aware that you’re making an effort to save the marriage.
So don’t lose hope just because your partner refuses to attend marriage counseling, or won’t put in the effort to fix the problems that are slowly eating away at your marriage.
There’s no catch to this, no marketing gimmicks…
At the very least, you should watch the first few minutes where Brad reveals the 3 “Marriage Murdering Mistakes”… These 3 massive myths alone are a huge reason why nearly half of all marriages end in divorce.
Start fighting for your marriage or relationship NOW. Watch this quick video that will teach you everything you need to know about salvaging the most important thing in the world: