“He Might Break Up With Me Because I’m Not Thin Enough”

“He might break up with me” is almost never a good reason for not dating, but it’s an especially bad idea for this particular reason…

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“Dear Claire, currently my best friend is professing his love for me, but I don’t think I’m ready. He is an amazing guy, interested in my dreams, ready to wait and all but I don’t think I’m ready. I just got out of a relationship and I’m actually scared of it not working out again. And well, I’m not a slim lady, kinda plump, and he loves his ladies slim with flat tummies. I’ll admit I’m scared one day he’ll realize it’s not love and want out.”Celeste

Hi, Celeste. Thanks for writing. I have a big word of love for you, beautiful woman:

NO ONE “realizes it’s not love” because their partner isn’t thin enough

Don’t confuse the hard work of real love with an opinion about how someone looks. Most people who are serious about being in relationship with another human are in that relationship for much deeper reasons than body shape (or eye color, or musical ability, etc).

He Doesn’t REALLY Want the “Perfect Woman.”
He Wants These 3 Things from You Instead.

Sure, there are plenty of shallow people out there who make judgments about an ENTIRE HUMAN being based on surface characteristics (skin color is a good example) but most of us know that’s unhelpful. There’s a lot more to a person than what you can see.

HERE’s the kind of man you want to date…

The REAL power characteristics of the kind of man you want to be in relationship with are things like

  • he makes you feel strong and good when you’re with him
  • his words and actions match and you feel you can trust him
  • he does things that make you feel loved
  • he’s willing to work through difficult times/situations together

Celeste, you mentioned that your best friend loves you, is interested in your dreams, and is ready to wait.. for YOU!

Why not take another look at some of the things that make him your best friend and see if in fact, he might also make a good boyfriend?

ANYthing “might” happen.

Yes, he might break up with you. You might break up with him. I might plant tomatoes. My girlfriend might make me cupcakes.

Well, I don’t actually expect Chris Hemsworth to call me, but hey, he “might” want to ask about my garden. Or the cupcakes. 🙂

Don’t let the past hold you back

You’re fresh out of a painful breakup. We all know what that’s like. But you said he was willing to wait! That’s pretty awesome. Why not let him?

Give yourself a time period to get over your breakup. Then get busy doing that healing and recovery work. And make no mistake, it IS work to heal those wounds. But it’s do-able!

End negative self-talk; instead, project an amazing future for yourself!

The way you talk to yourself reflects your deepest beliefs and self-value. If you find yourself saying

“He might break up with me unless I’m thinner.”

Re-write your script! It will feel awkward at first, but eventually you’ll shift the pattern of negative self-talk into something healthier.

“I’m an amazing and beautiful woman; he’s lucky to have someone like me!”

The more you believe in and invest in YOU, the more likely your new scripts are to be predictive and true!

Make a man feel like your hero, and you unleash his desire to commit to something MORE (He can’t help it!)

When you give him this “GAME ON” signal, he just starts to see you differently.

It’s as if your relationship unlocks a version of himself he has always longed for. It feels right in a way he can’t put into words.

It unleashes his protective instincts, the noble aspects of his masculinity, and most importantly, his deepest feelings of love and attraction.

You already have needs and desires. Why not learn how to translate those desires into requests that trigger his hero instinct?

Then relax into the warmth and passion he is only capable of showing to a woman who has triggered his hero instinct. A woman who knows exactly how to become the central character in his emotional world.

Ready to put this idea to use? Great! Because this video teaches you a set of triggers you can use to get explosive results.

Many of us have a tendency to buy gifts of the sort we would like to receive ourselves. It can be like that with love. We try to love our partner the way we want to be loved.

So you make him feel special. Yet he seems unaffected by that. You speak your own native love language to him. Apparently, he speaks another.

But you can ABSOLUTELY grab his attention by triggering his hero instinct.

–>Watch THIS and find out how…

Discover an unfair advantage that works with all men, in every phase of life.

Help him finally see YOU as the one!

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3 Responses to “He Might Break Up With Me Because I’m Not Thin Enough”

  1. me January 15, 2017 at 4:26 pm #

    trust your gut feeling. turning a best friend into your boyfriend contains the risk of losing both kinds of relationship in the end. and it’s awful to lose a best friend that way. wait. and if you still anticipate failure, don’t do it. that’s my advice.
    PLUS: a guy who is into flat tummies, is a completely shallow person or needs to show off his ego through a woman’s belly. not very grown-up.

    • Claire Casey January 15, 2017 at 5:04 pm #

      Exactly. You are enough. You are 100% enough. That is not contingent on your weight, your level of education, or the clothes you wear. You are worthwhile and wonderful because you were made that way.

      Big love and warm hugs. xoxo

  2. Melo January 17, 2017 at 1:28 pm #

    You are beautiful,if he leaves let him!

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