Men frequently say they’re not interested in a relationship. Do they really mean it? And if not, why do they say it?
Is he REALLY “not interested in a relationship right now”?
Hi Claire… When a guy says, “I just got out of a 5 year thing with someone and I’m not looking for a relationship”, does he always stick to it (mean it)? — Delana
Hi Delana, thanks for taking the time to message. It’s a good question, and I’ve gotten it many times so I know there are a lot of women out there experiencing this from men.
5 reasons men say “I’m not looking for a relationship right now”
When a man tells you he’s not interested in a relationship, it MIGHT be true, but it might not. He might be playing one of 5 “cards” here…
He’s telling you he’s not interested, just broke up, etc., because he hopes to get some tasty-sweet woman-sympathy. It’s an attention thing.
Playing this card might even get him some “poor brokenhearted baby” sex.
Which could develop into regular bootie calls.
WARNING. You probably already know that women tend to hope that bootie calls will turn into a deeper relationship. Men don’t.
2. The “Screening for Bootie Calls” Card
This one is a version of the truth. He’s NOT interested in a “relationship,” but he IS interested in sex.
See the above warning.
3. The “I’m in Control” Card
He tells you this IN CASE he might want to date you.
You’ve backed off, so now he gets to call all the shots if he decides he wants to.
4. The “Easy Exit” Card
Once he’s told you he’s not interested he can freely make a play for you, and you’re all off-balance. (He’s in control.)
So if you date for a while or even sleep together, and then he decides he’s ready to move on, he has a ready-made exit excuse.
He can quickly and easily put all the responsibility for “misunderstanding” on you.
“Hey,” he can casually say, “I TOLD you I wasn’t interested in a relationship.”
5. The Truth
Yep, some guys say it because it’s true.
And some guys say it because it’s true, then change their minds and decide to date.
How to RESPOND to his “I’m not interested” speech
Take him at his word.
Assume he’s telling the gospel truth, and leave him alone.
This means you move forward with your life, immediately. Date other men and don’t put your universe on hold in hopes that something might develop with this guy.
Can you be “friends” even if he’s not interested in more?
ONLY if you don’t behave like a girlfriend or a bootie call.
Don’t date him and don’t sleep with him.
Be clear that if he’s interested in dating you, then your outings have to be actual dates, not “let’s watch Netflix at my place then have sex” or “I need to fill some social gaps” or “you’re the only one available, so why not.”
You’re worth so much more than that.
If the two of you are “just friends,” that means you are still casually dating other men and whole-heartedly pursuing your gorgeous life.
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