You’re spending WAY too much time trying to be the kind of woman men want. Exciting, fun, romantic. In shape, funny, beautiful. It’s a full time job! And it never works out well. Here’s why…
You’re doing too much of the WRONG kind of work, girlfriend!
You work so hard at being attractive to him… And he just takes you for granted (if he notices you at all).
It’s probably because he’s immature, right? He can’t recognize a good thing until it’s gone. Or maybe… It’s because you’ve been doing all the work for him.
Fact: What men value most are those things they have to work hard to get.
Hand a man a college diploma, and he won’t value it as much as if he’d had to put in years of study and effort to earn it.
But, as you’ve probably already noticed…
There’s a BIG problem with playing hard to get. That strategy stops working once he’s actually got you. It’s almost like they think, “Game over.” Their minds are already on their next challenge. What is going on? And how can you stop it from wrecking your relationship?
It’s Not Just You—ALL Women Experience This
Many women give up on love. They never let themselves get too close to a man, for fear of scaring him off. But other women try a different approach. They get help. Relationship coach James Bauer is one of the people they turn to.
He noticed that many clients were coming to him, complaining about guys who were blowing hot and cold. Everything would be going great, and then…something would change overnight.
A guy who’d been warm, affectionate and interested would suddenly become distant. He’d no longer have any time for her. He wouldn’t smile in greeting. He’d stop making eye contact. His kisses were brusque.
Wanting to help his clients, James investigated.
And what he discovered made sense of everything. He knew why these men were backing away. He knew what they needed … and what they weren’t getting.
There was absolutely nothing “wrong” with these women. Rather, it all came down to something he called “The Hero Instinct.”
(You can hear James talking more about The Hero Instinct HERE.)
Most Women Do Something that Drives Men Away…Without Ever Realizing It
Something that almost all women have is the amazing ability to be naturally caring.
Look at you. You’re always there for your guy. You look after him. You always make time for him. You’d do anything for him. You work so hard at trying to read his mind, understand what he wants.
You never realize that, in the process…You’re actually taking something away from him. You’re taking away his purpose.
You see, he wants to be your hero.
He doesn’t want YOU to be HIS hero.
Men love heroes. Look at how many grown men are still fascinated by Marvel comics and superhero movies.
Every man on Earth, from the time he was a boy, dreamed of growing up to be the kind of hero who would save the world—and get the girl at the same time.
Most men don’t get to indulge their world-saving side in their 9 to 5 jobs.
Circumstances don’t call for them to rip off their corporate ties and spring into action, revealing their superman side. Maybe they can’t save the world. But they can still get the girl.
Getting the girl is a worthy challenge for an ordinary guy with the heart of a superhero. It takes superhuman confidence. Superhuman charm. Superhuman immunity to pain. Now, all he needs to find is…
A woman who needs a hero.
Let me guess… That’s not you.
You’re strong and independent. You can fix a leaky faucet or drive a stick shift. You definitely can take care of yourself. You are generous. Kind. Loving. Giving to a fault. All you want is to find a man who’s willing to receive all you have to give.
And that’s why heroes aren’t showing up in your life. That’s why you’ve ended up with so many “takers” instead. Guys who take everything you have and leave you high and dry
If you want a hero, then you need to advertise for one. Here’s how.
3 Ways You Can Invite a Hero into Your Life, Starting Today
1. Ask a guy for help.
Stop trying to read his mind. Instead, ask him for something. Ask him for advice on buying a new computer. Ask him to listen to that weird rattling sound that’s started up in your car. Ask him to reach something on the top shelf. Then thank him warmly, with a warm, genuine smile of appreciation.
No, that doesn’t make you needy.
It makes you a woman with space for a man in her life.
2. Take pleasure in male company.
Guys love women who appreciate men for just being men. So what if his apartment is a shrine to sports? So what if he spends hours on his fantasy football team? So what if his idea of a clean shirt is the one with the fewest wrinkles? He’s a guy. It’s okay. You don’t need him to be more like you, because you’ve got the feminine side of the gender equation covered.
3. Let him earn your respect.
A superhero loves a challenge. He doesn’t want to be given a gold medal just for showing up. He doesn’t want you to read his mind. He doesn’t want your love handed to him on a plate. He wants to earn it.
Make a man feel like your hero, and you unleash his desire to commit to something MORE
He’s been searching everywhere for a woman who genuinely and sincerely needs him, who truly enjoys his company, and who respects the person that he is working his hardest to be.
But you were trying to be the woman with the best body.
The woman who would do everything he needed.
The one who would give him your unconditional love no matter what.
But he wasn’t actually looking for that.
Instead, he wanted the woman who would make him her hero.
He knew that when he found her, he would never let her out of his sight.
Discover the advantage that works with all men, in every phase of life.
You don’t have to read his mind to help him finally see YOU as the one!