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How To Flip That Booty Call Into A Real Relationship!

Booty Call to Real Relationship

Sometimes sex happens between two consenting adults without any other emotional commitments. It might even be swing-from-the-chandeliers monkey fun. And if a booty call is ALL both people want from the relationship, everything is fine.

But what if you’d like to actually WAKE UP together and spend time with him for once? Have breakfast together, plan a day of fun and togetherness?

Can you make him your boyfriend, or will you always be a booty call to him?

Usually, it’s the woman who sprouts feelings first.

You start feeling frustrated and used, because you REALLY want a boyfriend. You don’t want to be “just” a booty call, now matter how steamy-hot the hookups are.

Here are 5 steps (PLUS a nuclear option) to turn that booty call into a real relationship, starting today…

“Claire, I’m stuck. I have given my heart to this guy who I’ve been seeing for about 3 months, but I don’t think he feels the same about me.

The Devotion SystemWe have an incredible sex life, but I sometimes feel like that’s the only reason he ever comes over. We almost never go out on dates, even though I’ve invited him to my favorite restaurants on the beach several times. We’re both runners, but he won’t come run with my run club, either. He says he only wants to be alone with me. Last week was his birthday, and when he was too busy to come over, I was sure he would invite me to go out with a group of his friends but he didn’t. 🙁

What we have is special, so how can I get him to see that??” – Alyssa

Ouch. Darling, you say what you have is “special,” but the clearer truth is that what you have is sex. You need more than that for this to become a serious relationship. Right now it sounds like you’re his booty call, not his girlfriend. By my count you could check off at least 5 or 6 of the 10 Signs You’re (Only) His Booty Call…

So if you’re serious about wanting to flip this booty call into a real relationship, scroll down and find out what you can do to make the change. It can and does happen, girlfriend!

Booty Call to Boyfriend Step 1: Shift him from texts to phone calls

Don’t allow him to restrict all your communications to impersonal or sex-connected texts. You don’t have to let him set the method or tone for all your interactions; you have some control of this, too.

  • Respond to his texts with a phone call instead.
  • Pick up the phone and call him just to talk.
  • Be willing to ignore some texts completely, or delay your reply until the following day.

READ MORE: How to Get Him to Call More, Text Less

Booty Call to Boyfriend Step 2: Ask him IRRESISTIBLE questions

You gotta hook and reel him in with the best, most irresistible questions you could possibly ask. The kind of questions that make him feel like you are the only woman who really understands him.

Invest in a good “questions for couples” book if you need help on this one.

Booty Call to Boyfriend Step 3: Turn the tables on him (STOP being his booty call)

Don’t be wholly available to him. Let your own schedule take priority so that he’s not always able to get whatever he wants (i.e., sex) whenever he wants it with you.

The Devotion System

Instead, tell him you’re out with another friend, or working late, or have plans with someone for a special event or outing. Let it be clear that you live a full, interesting, and passionate life.

In case you’re NOT already dating other guys, start.

And I’ll say that again in a minute, because I really mean this.

Go out. Have a blast. Be public about your enjoyment of these life and dating adventures.

 

When he starts to ask “Who are you with?” and “Where are you going?” you know you’ve started to arouse his interest and get him a little bothered over you. Enjoy that feeling!

And don’t give in to any whining or pleading for hookups on his part.

Instead…

Booty Call to Boyfriend Step 4: Slowly (slowly!) draw him in

Allow him to see you SOMETIMES, on your own terms, and at places you choose. These should be real dates, not appointments to steam up the windows in your Jeep Cherokee at Lookout Point.

Up to now he’s been in complete control, so expect resistance. Ifyou really want him to move from “a guy you have amazing sex with” to “my fabulous boyfriend” then you’ll stand firm.

You deserve to have the relationship you’re working toward!

Booty Call to Boyfriend Step 5: Never be exclusive with someone who ISN’T your boyfriend

That means if you want something OTHER than a booty call, keep dating other guys.

Because over time you’ll find out whether this is the man for you. And if he never gets on board with your plan, you’ll already be well on your way to finding the man who is desperate to join you in your beautiful life.

(I told you I would tell you this part again.)

Booty Call to Boyfriend: The nuclear option

booty call or girlfriendOkay, let’s say you work this plan and he never budges an inch. All he wants is sex. Great, earth-shaking, bone-melting sex. With you. On his schedule. And that’s all.

And you want the great sex, but you also want more. You DO NOT want to just be his booty call. (Possibly one of several.) (Ick.)

Here’s your last-ditch plan, and you’re gonna laugh when you hear it.

You TALK to him directly about it. Yep. You bring it right straight out in the open and tell him that

a. You think he’s an amazing man
b. You’ve enjoyed the smoking hot bed boogie
c. You’re interested in an even bigger, better, more incredible relationship with a man you can share your future with (describe what that looks like)

and

d. What does he think about that?

AND Make Him Want to MARRY you? (This is crazy… and awesome!)

Listen, if you want more than just great sex, you need to check this out. It’s an advanced sequence of words called a “Devotion Sequence” that will make ANY MAN feel a hungry desire for you that’s BEYOND love…

–> Learn how NOW (The bit at the end is jaw-dropping)

It’s not about sex! It’s DEEPER, RICHER, and MORE.

Watch this short ‘how to’ video to learn…

5 things men find irresistibleIt doesn’t matter if you don’t think you’re naturally beautiful or smart…

Because once these innocent words reach a man’s ear, he will feel an undying devotion to you…

And he won’t be able to stop thinking about you all day long… In a FRESH, NEW way that’s NOT about a “booty call”…

You seriously need to try this out yourself because it’s worked well for thousands of women already…

And if you haven’t seen this yet, you’re missing out!

–> Goodbye “booty call,” Hello RELATIONSHIP!

Try it out… I guarantee you that once you use this weirdly effective “Devotion Sequence” on any man, he will feel desperate to caress you, hold you, and never let you go.

It doesn’t matter if you’re single or not either, because this “sequence” will even work on your cold husband or boyfriend too…

And make him start falling into a deep “love trance” for YOU, fierce heart!

xoxo Claire

13 comments on “How To Flip That Booty Call Into A Real Relationship!

  1. samantha kgaodi

    thank you

  2. Masculine Profiles

    Getting a woman’s perspective was insightful and knowing what she thinks about booty calls. Thanks for the takeaways!

  3. AuroraTheGreat

    Roflmao!!! Why would I want to try and earn a man’s love? If a man thinks I have to earn his love and I have to work for his heart, then I will not value his heart once I have it. If a man can’t see my value on his own, then he himself is valueless. I will bang him and leave him and HE will be the one wondering why I stopped returning his calls. Diva snip, diva snap, diva snip.

    • Claire Casey

      I DO hear ya, AuroraTheGreat 🙂 and you’re right that a man should value his woman. But love also does take work (on the part of both partners) in order to build and grow over time. Love is not so much “earned” (although trust is earned) but it is built. It’s definitely work. But it can be pretty awesome, too, as you already know!

      Thanks for taking the time to read and comment, beautiful. xoxo

    • Aurora you go girl turn him into the booty call who the booty call now

  4. Nikki isaac

    Love this article…i did few things before i read this article n he seems interested with me..now, i have more ideas on what to do next..thanks

    • Claire Casey

      Fabulous! So glad to hear you’ve got things moving in the right direction, Nikki.

    • Hi Nikki. What have you done to change his interest. I am in a similar situation. Thank you.

  5. Kimberly

    After dating 4months, my boyfriend is losing interest and wanted to meet me only when he needs sex. I enjoy sex with him but I don’t want him to look down on me as his booty call only. I tried to make myself busy this week and not meet him for hooksup. My friends told me that he will not respect me if i let him treat me like his booty call. I truly love him I don’t know how should I handle this next. please guide me what should I do and how. thanks in advance

    • Claire Casey

      Hi Kimberly, thanks for taking the time to read and comment. Honestly, if none of the tactics listed in the article worked for you, you really only have one option, and that’s to quit being his booty call. I know it’s easier said than done, but girlfriend, you want MORE and you deserve more, too!

      Here’s one more article that may help:
      https://askclairecasey.com/break-booty-call-pattern-relationship/

      I hope you’ll decide to shut this door and open a fresh, new door to the kind of love and relationship you dream of… xoxo

  6. Hi Claire, I’m in a similar situation, we’ve been hooking up for a months now. We actually HAVE gone out on a few dates. He has brought me around his friends, but when I asked him about his intentions with me he straight up said he just wants to be friends, but continues to contact me threwout the day with texts and calls when he gets off work just to talk. What is your advice on this one?

    • Claire Casey

      Hey there Kimmi — What you do depends on what you want to have happen. If you love the sex and are fine with just that (plus his regular texts and calls), then you don’t have to really do anything other than enjoy what you currently have. And of course it’s entirely possible that over time, your relationship will shift and change as you work on it.

      But if you feel like you are just a booty call to him, and you want something considerably different, use the tactics in the article above and definitely don’t be afraid of the nuclear option (listed after Step 5). That subtitle may sound extreme, but it’s incredibly effective.

      My best to you as you go after what you want! 🙂

  7. I want a relationship with this man, he even said “you’re a great woman, you’ll make a good wife some day.” I just feel he’s doesn’t have the slightest intentions on movIng past the booty call since he’s mentioned to me more then once that it will never be anything serious. Do you think it’s even worth trying these steps or should I cut him off and move on?

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