It seems ridiculous, but you have this strange little idea bopping around in your head that maybe (and this is such a weird thought) he didn’t come. Nah, that can’t be the case, you think. Guys ALWAYS finish. Don’t they?
Did he just fake his climax?
It seemed like great sex – from the spicy-hot text messages he was sending to you all day to that amazing post-work back rub, which turned into a steamy, sexy evening filled with all your favorites.
It felt like he did it all for you – and you lapped up every delicious minute of it.
And in the sweaty, glowing aftermath, a really odd thought sneaks up in your head. You begin to wonder…
Did he really ejaculate? You couldn’t exactly tell. The sounds and motions seemed right, but the, erm, fluids could all have been yours.
Will a man really fake his climax?? But why would he?
“Dear Claire, this is a little weird. Please change my name if you publish this one :o).
My husband and I have great sex, I have NO complaints in this area! But I have begun to wonder if sometimes he actually has a climax. He seems to, but something is odd. I don’t know why I’m wondering this, it’s just in my mind, and it’s incredibly awkward for me! Should I talk to him? P.S. He’s 34 and I’m 41 and we’ve been married 14 months. First marriages for both of us.
I told you it was weird. Hope you have some advice.” ~ Jessie
Hi, Jessie (not your real name)! I’m so glad you messaged me because I have no doubt in my mind that you’re not the only woman who has ever wondered about this.
We tend to think that an orgasm is fairly simple, ordinary process for guys. Get erection, apply friction, and (pretty soon) The End.
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How many men will admit to faking it?
In a 2012 survey of 49,000 men (and 1,000 women) conducted by AskMen.com, 34% of the men said they’d faked it at least once. (In case you’re wondering, 63% of the women had, too… )
And c’mon, it’s an easy enough thing to fake, right? All he has to do is use a condom (which is quickly thrown away) or make sure there’s enough bodily fluids inside you already that he’s safe from discovery.
WHY would a guy fake his climax?
Here’s why I think a guy will pretend he came – and brace yourself, because these are very similar to the reasons women fake it too:
1. He might fake his climax because he doesn’t want you to feel bad.
You’re both in a vulnerable situation. He wants you to have a great time, and doesn’t want the awkward attention or sympathy you might turn his way if he can’t climax.
2. He might fake his climax because he wants to feel manly.
And manly men ejaculate. Right? Seriously, have you looked at mainstream p*rn recently?
3. He might fake his climax because he’s had too much alcohol (or other drugs) to ejaculate for real.
Well, you knew this one.
4. He might fake his climax because it’s taking too long and he wants it to end.
Wait. Does this guy even exist?
I suspect that this particular scenario doesn’t happen often, given the statistic experts keep giving us that the average duration of intercourse (just the in-and-out bit, not including foreplay) is 3 to 7 minutes. Who are those “experts” anyway?? They’re all over the interwebs, and they are such a sad bunch.
5. He might fake his climax because he’s bored, distracted, tired, stressed, or sleepy.
And I’m not talking about Snow White’s dwarves, either.
6. He might fake his climax because he came earlier. Maybe one too many times today.
Guys who already ejaculated one or more times during the day – while watching p*rn, or, I dunno, preparing tax reports – may have difficulty in producing yet another round of fireworks.
So yeah, maybe your guy DID fake his climax.
He wouldn’t be the only one. And it’s probably not a huge deal, unless you think it’s happening a whole lot. Based on your message, it sounds like it may have happened before but it’s not how things usually go.
Should you mention it to him?
Nah, I wouldn’t; at least not at this point. You’re still new to each other – barely more than a year into your marriage. You said the sex is awesome, and that’s a great thing to have!
My guess is that he wants very much to make the woman of his dreams intensely, profoundly, shout-out-loud happy in bed, and holy hump-bunnies, who wouldn’t be thrilled with that?
I think eventually he will relax, and you both will feel more secure with each other.
Meanwhile, enjoy each other like you’re already doing! Let him know how much you appreciate his careful attention to your pleasure. I’m sure you’re giving him pleasure as well.
The world needs plenty more of that, right?
Got wisdom to add?
Do you think a guy will really will fake his climax? Why or why not? Take a sec and leave a comment below and add your voice to the conversation!