Saying exactly the right words to a man while the two of you are steaming things up together can have a powerful, electrifying impact on the overall health of your relationship.
In fact, NOT saying the right words — especially while intimately engaged! — can wreck things in a pretty embarrassing way, as I found out. (Read the whole awkward story here.)
Words that turn a man on trigger a specific response in him, both physically and emotionally. A man wants to know that you LOVE what he’s doing and that his masculinity is arousing you.
There is an almost universal male archetype of the strong sex-god rock star who is able to magically seduce and satisfy women.
Yes, even your brainiac math-whiz type has a fantasy of being THAT guy. 🙂
Here are a few phrases you can say to him can give him that feeling of sex-god rock star he craves. When you say these phrases, it’s like you’ve crawled right into his sexual imagination…
1. “You feel so amazing.”
Or you can fill in the blank with any kind of adjective there: incredible, big, good, fantastic, hard, huge, awesome. Add in the f-word for a more explicit effect. You get the idea.
When you are having intercourse, telling him just how great he feels to you is the ultimate compliment. It validates his prowess and physicality in real-time. (You’ll learn in my program Language of Desire just how MUCH importance most guys place on their penis…)
2. “Don’t stop!”
It could be any command really: harder, right there, give it to me. Again, feel free to add in curse words and explicit language.
Giving him a command during sex to keep doing exactly what he’s doing to you is confident and hot. It shows him just how much you are enjoying it.
Men say the number one thing they love during sex is an enthusiastic partner!
That’s right. They DIDN’T say the number one thing was bra size, and he’s not “all about that bass” to the exclusion of everything else. A woman who is lifeless and bored in the sack is NOT a turn-on no matter how bouncy and lush her curves are.
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There’s more to mind-blowing sexytimes than BJs or threesome fantasies. WAY more, girlfriend. And it’s actually a lot simpler. He wants YOU, and he wants you to be aroused and excited by what he’s doing.
So tell him he better not stop, because it’s blowing your mind!
3. “I can’t get enough of you…” (OR “I’m so turned on by you…”)
This phrase speaks to his ability to arouse you. That he turns you into a sex-hungry vixen who wants his body all the time. Is that an exaggeration? Sure. But think about how often we unwittingly turn our partners away because we are tired, or have a headache, or just aren’t in the mood.
This doesn’t mean you have to be ready to go at it 24/7. (That would be crazy.)
However, when you feed his ego you are convincing him that he has the ability to drive you wild with desire, and you make him feel amazing, ESPECIALLY when you say this phrase OUTSIDE of the bedroom.
The idea that his woman is distracted in the middle of the day by sexy thoughts of him? Rawr.
How to learn your man’s secret fantasies
If you want over 200+ ideas, phrases, and text messages to drive your man wild with desire for you, make sure to check out my new program, Language of Desire.
I froze up when my man said “Talk dirty to me,” but what I did NEXT will shock you and change the way men look at you forever…
–> Make him shiver with desire for you (and only you)
I’ll give you step-by-step instructions and tons of exact words to use to get exactly what you both want in and out of the bedroom.
Have a fantastic time! 🙂
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