You know there’s no “magic” number of times per week (month, year) that you SHOULD be getting it on with your guy… But you’re definitely wanting more sexytimes than he does, and you’re not sure what to do about it.
Here are 3 POTENT TIPS (insert sex joke here) for how to handle your boyfriend’s low sex drive…And make BOTH of you much happier!
What to Do When Your Sex Drive Is Higher Than His…
You may be feeling a little embarrassed about it, but dealing with a boyfriend’s low sex drive is not nearly as unusual as you might think… In fact, it happens in about 30% of couples.
So if that’s you, what are your options? How do you get your own desires met when you’re the one who wants sex more often than he does?
“Hi Claire, I’ve read your Capture His Heart course and it worked! I’ve been living with my gorgeous guy for two years now. We have so much fun together.
The only problem is he’s never had a high sex drive and only wants to make love at most once every couple of weeks. I try not to pressure him but I’d like it more often and I really wish we could tell each other what feels good so we could both enjoy making love together for fun and closeness but if I try to initiate he just laughs and goes to sleep.
What can I do about my boyfriend’s low sex drive? How can I get more delicious closeness with him?” – Sofia
Hi, Sofia; thanks for writing. And I have great news for you: there really are a LOT of things you can do…
1. Start Well in Advance
Girlfriend, I can’t believe you said “if I try to initiate he just laughs and goes to sleep.” You know as well as I do that a man’s arousal begins the same place yours does: the brain. You want him thinking about getting some sexytime with you LONG before the two of you are actually in bed for the night. Guys deserve foreplay too!
This isn’t necessarily JUST about your boyfriend’s low sex drive; it’s about you, too! Want to know how to get some smokin’ hot lustfires started? Read on.
2. Unlock His Sexual Preferences
Want to see a drastic change in your boyfriend’s low sex drive? You need to know what turns him on, so you can warm up his engine. Look back at specific times when the sex between the two of you was mind-blowingly delicious.
- What fantasies did you talk about or enact?
- What was the specific situation (time of day, fresh out of the shower, low job stress, etc.)?
- Were there clothes, places, toys, games, or positions that seemed to really add fuel to his sexual fire?
- What kind of “dirty talk” makes him groan with pleasure?
- You can also ask him outright about his favorite sexual fantasies; even the act of talking about his favorite set-ups is likely to lead to some steamy action.
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3. Widen Your Definition of Sexual Activity
You said you want “delicious closeness” with your man…
What about phone sex? Or taking a shower together, sexy texting, couples massage, mutual touching, watching a sexy movie, bj’s, handjobs, reading him a passage out of a dirty story, nasty-dancing, or even shopping together for sexy clothes and lingerie?
There are so many ways to be erotically connected with your partner that don’t begin (but may end!) with the two of you shagging in a mad-hot frenzy. You just may forget that you ever even thought you were dealing with a boyfriend’s low sex drive. Get creative and have fun!
Remember, everybody has a different libido…
In the end, your sex drive and his sex drive and everybody’s sex drive in the entire world is different and weird and and hilarious and wonderful. Nobody gets a cast-in-shining-perfection-with-whips-and-rainbow-sparkles sexual match.
Which is part of what makes it all so insanely interesting, right?
So your task, as half of a committed couple, is to figure out how to make your weirdly-shaped libidos fit together. Or at least rub together enough to feel pleasurable and make you smile. 🙂
This naughty erotic secret will make him LOSE his MIND with DESIRE…
To get a man to be focused on you and only you he craves and desires you constantly all you have to do is _____________.
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If you feel like you never get what *you* need in bed from any guy you date, then you must read this eye-opening, life-changing article right now…
The amazing thing is that this works to explode your boyfriend’s low sex drive without him having ANY idea you’re using it… Or why he’s suddenly so desperate to give YOU the pleasure, attention and *connection* you crave . .
And don’t forget to do THIS, girlfriend…
Use your words.
If your boyfriend’s low sex drive becomes an issue that you can’t seem to solve with any of the tools I’ve already listed, then you need to have a loving, grown-up conversation with him about it.
If one of your foundational needs in the relationship is a certain kind and frequency of sex, he needs to understand and know how best to make you feel loved, right?
You got this, I just know you do.