Have you ever felt so knocked down by life that you wondered if you were running out of time to get your happily ever after? Does your romantic potential have a shelf life? Is it ever too late for love?
The letter I’m answering in the video below is from a woman who has seen some hard times and experienced some major setbacks in her life and relationships.
I’ve put a transcript of her letter (and my answers to her) below, but I’ll tell you the biggest truth (in the cosmos!) right now:
It’s never too late for love, my darling.
It’s never too late for love.
“Dear Claire, I was widowed at 26 when my husband took his own life. Then I moved into a verbally abusive relationship. I then moved into a beautiful and healthy relationship for the past year and a half and we became engaged a few months into the relationship.
Three weeks before the wedding, my partner called it off and I haven’t heard from him since.
I’m struggling to ignore the thought in my head that I’ll never get my happily ever after, and that I’m just too much of a train wreck for anyone to stay with me. I want, so badly, to be married, have children, and make a home with my partner. I’m 32 years old, and I feel like I’m running out of time to make my dreams come true.” – Shana
Dearest Shana… I’m terribly sorry about your husband’s death. There’s so much there that you will need to carefully unpack and deal with over the years, and I hope you have professional help when you need it, and also the support of trusted friends and mentors.
You also had an abusive relationship, and that is pretty horrible as well. But it sounds to me like you got out of that, learned what went wrong, and – this is CRITICAL – moved on to a healthier place and a better relationship.
The fact that your third relationship didn’t go like you thought it would either is so painful for you, but it certainly does NOT define you. Clearly you are a strong woman, dealing with the many troubles life has dealt out to you.
It is NEVER too late for love. Maya Angelou said love is like a virus, it can happen to anybody at any time. Your romantic potential does NOT have a shelf life!
Here’s what you can do:
1. Note your thoughts
The next time you have those fearful thoughts, just acknowledge them. Don’t push back. Just note them. Note what the words and phrases are, what specific “routines” they run in your head. Don’t allow them to influence what you DO, just note them.
2. Keep moving forward, expectantly
Love is always right there at your fingertips. Make sure your hand and heart are open and ready to receive it.
3. Get professional help if you need it.
SO much is waiting for you to discover and enjoy it.
I promise you, it is definitely not too late for love.
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