Break the Booty Call Pattern and Get The Relationship You WANT

You THOUGHT you were getting into a relationship, but somehow you ended up on his booty call list. Here’s how to break the booty call pattern FOREVER.

“I want OUT of the booty call pattern!”

“So basically, I’m 20 years old, this guy is 29, and we work together. I had a huuge crush on him, we got along really well at work, and one day he gave me his number and told me he wanted to take me out. He would say how happy I made him and how I was smart and funny and beautiful and all this cute cheesy stuff. And then, the first time we went out, we had sex. Ever since then he’s been pretty short with me and only texts or calls when he wants sex (most of the time). And it sucks because I want to be more than just a booty call to him but I think I got led astray a little. Wondering if there’s anything I can do. Thanks!!” — Erin

Hi Erin, thanks for writing.

I can answer your question in one sentence. If you don’t want to be his booty call, you have to STOP being his booty call.

Which I’m pretty sure you already knew.

But there’s actually more that I think can be helpful. This happens to a LOT of women, and not just young ones, either.

The reason women (of any age) get quietly, unexpectedly drawn into the booty call pattern

Generally speaking, lots of men enjoy sex with NO relationship.

Generally speaking, lots of women enjoy sex WITH a relationship.

When your crush recognized your interest in him, he flirted a little, built you up, asked you out, and invited you into bed with him.

HE did it because he was interested in sex.

YOU did it because sex is good, but you prefer it in the context of a relationship.

You both enjoyed the sex, and he figured he would keep that going. And you kept answering his booty calls because you thought it would eventually lead to a relationship.

It’s hard to start with sex, and end with a relationship

Because he’s already getting the one thing he wants.

Now, there’s no guarantee that just because you hold out on sex for a while means that he’s the type who is interested in a relationship, but it’s a pretty good way to begin to figure it out.

And it IS a good way to eliminate a LOT of the guys who are only interested in sex.

How to break the booty call pattern, and get the relationship you want

Breaking the booty call pattern is easy. (Easy to SAY, anyway.)

Stop answering the calls.

Next time, start with relationship rather than sex, and see where it leads you.

See what it reveals about the guy you’re dating.

If he sticks around, there are things about you he likes (other than sex). He may think you are worth waiting for. He might be interested in building a partnership with you.

And here’s an awesome secret of the universe:

There are some men who actually appreciate the relationship-first approach.

There are some men who actually PREFER it.

There are some men who are REALLY gonna be attracted to you because of it.

And there are even guys who might not be ready for sex when you are. They may put you off a while. This actually happens!

In fact, there are men in the world who know just how powerful it is when they make clear to a woman that they aren’t in it only for sex.

Nice, right?

If you want a man to give you 100% of his heart, body, and soul… Take a look at this

You may think that guys are born to want to “screw around” with different women, and that they have a hard time committing to just one…

And it might feel like the guy you’re dating (or the guys you dated  before) can’t make up their mind and PLEDGE themselves to you, with 100% of their heart, body and soul…

But the truth is, there ARE men who actually HUNGER for a committed, loving relationship with the right woman…

But YOU have to lead in this.

And there are some critical things you need to know.

DON’T be part of the 98% of women who have no idea what men really think, why they work the way they do, and the REAL reasons that make a man pledge his mind, body, and soul to you forever…

–> Capture HIS heart (and let him love you forever)

Imagine being with someone and never having to worry about “other women.”

Imagine KNOWING that he thinks you’re “the one” for him to be with forever.

Aren’t you ready to feel completely warm, safe, and secure in his arms, because his heart will beat for you and only you for the rest of time?