Have you ever said to yourself, “My boyfriend really wants [insert weird sexual activity, nineteen kids, a loan, etc.], and if I don’t do it, he might leave me”?
You definitely are not not the first woman to think this, but here’s why this tiny, sneaky, and very painful little thought deserves a bit more of your attention…
There is NO future in a relationship where you can’t say no; where what you think—or the boundaries you have for yourself—are not allowed any space or respect.
I know that’s hard to hear, but it may also come as a relief to you.
Because the issue is NOT that weird, kinky, or outrageous thing he wants you to do with him (or that he wants to do TO you). The issue is whether or not the two of you are comfortable enough with each other to have conversations about the hard things in life.
The #1 reason why couples break up is that they lack trust and open communication…You can instantly FIX this forever by learning the right words to “talk to his heart.”
And there are three pieces to this puzzle. Three things that go into becoming the kind of woman who NEVER fears the thought: “If I don’t, he might leave…”
1. Value yourself highly
You are in control of your own self-worth.
You must value yourself enough to believe that what you think and say are important. You must be absolutely convinced that your “no” ought to be given weight and respect with any person you love.
I know that’s easy to say and hard to do.
But a man who loves you will also value you, and won’t attempt to manipulate you by making you feel he might leave if you don’t give him what he wants. (Btw, that’s how toddlers behave, not grown-ass men.)
In this particular case, that means being willing to bring up and TALK openly and honestly about the issues that are important to you.
You can’t have a good relationship if you are always worried he might leave.
3. Be willing to take THIS risk…
When you go out on a limb and love someone, there is a chance that they may not love you back. Yes, he might leave. He gets to choose that.
There are no guarantees.
I know you want love, but if you are feeling desperate about it, there’s probably an issue with #1 above.
You have INFLUENCE over (some) others, but not control.
And it doesn’t matter how many times you agree to do things that are outside your comfort zone or boundaries, you can’t control what someone else decides or does.
You only control yourself. So go ahead and choose YOU!
Decide to love yourself so much you will never agree to do something that is outside the soul-boundaries you’ve drawn for yourself.
Decide to care for yourself so much that you are willing to talk to the man you love when those boundaries are in danger.
YOU are well worth this risk!
Words that GET TRUST and open communication with him
If you’ve ever had trust issues or communication problems with a man, just try sending him the words you’ll learn inside this exclusive video…
You can even use these words to send him a text message, or a message on Facebook, and he’ll stop whatever he is doing and feel brand-new, unusual, and very GOOD feelings about you…
So that you trigger INTENSE DESIRES in a hidden part of his brain, and deep within his heart…
This next part might surprise you…
The women who have used these magic words have shared that their men actually OFFERED to give them their Facebook and phone passwords…just to PROVE that they wanted to be 100% open and honest from now on.
So make sure you watch this video before it gets pulled offline: