Becoming a smokin’ hot sensual woman is about reveling in your femininity, taking joy in yourself and the world around you, and never letting guilt come between you and the man you adore.
Sound complicated? It really isn’t…
Let me tell you a sensual little story, then you’ll find 4 powerful steps that will help you awaken and release that sexy tigress within you…
Pierre watched Maria shimmy up the stairs to their apartment with a muffled groan. Those hips of hers made him ache and she knew it. If he worked it just right, it would be impossible for the two of them to make it to the bedroom. He'd have her in the kitchen, he thought, probably with most of their clothes still on.
In one of her customary bursts of sensual insight, Maria paused on the top step and looked over her shoulder at him, catching him in the act of reaching out to stroke her finest...asset.
She raised an eyebrow. “Ah-ah-ah, none of that, naughty boy. I haven't eaten in hours, and I'm...” – she paused to emphasize her intent – “eager to have you cook me up some dinner before we make...further plans.”
She reached out and slowly drew his outstretched hand up to her mouth and gave his finger a gentle bite. “I'm so hungry,” she told him.
Everything about Maria made him hard as a rock and twice as unyielding. “Please, baby. I'll be quick. Then we can order in. Anything you like, promise.”
Maria pretended to fiddle with the lock. “I don't think so,” she purred. “I don't think you'll be quick at all. In fact, I think you'll take as long as I like, do everything I tell you, and when I'm ready, then you'll make me dinner and wait patiently while I...finish. Then, if you're good, maybe you can finish too.” She grinned. “Or maybe I'll finish you. You'd like that, wouldn't you?”
She turned and leaned her back and shoulders against the door, arching her hips toward him, grinding in a slow, maddening circle.
He closed his eyes and prayed for patience. And stamina. And while he was at it, he thanked all the forces of the universe that had made him fortunate enough to win this woman for his lover.
He opened his eyes and met her dark, sparkling stare. “Challenge accepted,” he said.
Is it getting warm in here, or is it just me? These two need to get inside already and quit steaming up the hallway.
But I gave you a little peek into their red-hot romance because they have some things going on that every couple should have.
Take a look and see if you and your date/mate have what it takes to crank up the heat...
1. You love yourself. You're so sexy you could date yourself!
There's no way Maria could put together a show like this if she wasn't 100% in tune with how attractive she was, and how hot she made her man just by being herself.
Real intimacy has to have great, gorgeous mounds of self-esteem to flourish in (just keepin' it real here). When you KNOW you are beautifully-made, smart, and passionate, other people are inspired by what you have. I'm not talking about arrogance, just happy, pleasure-filled confidence. Your partner will be drawn like a nectar-starved bee to your dripping, sweet honey. Clear enough picture for ya?
Now answer this question, sexy lady...
- On a scale of 1 (not) to 5 (red-hot), how much do you BELIEVE in yourself?
2. You are amazingly sensual...
Sensuality is being aware of and indulging yourself in the pleasures of the senses. Do you take joy in the many wonderful and intriguing scents, sights, sounds, tastes, and textures all around you?
Now answer this question, hot mama...
- On a scale of 1 (not) to 5 (red-hot), how SENSUAL would you say you are?
Not sure how to answer? Click HERE and take the "How Sensual Are You?" Quiz!
The "How Sensual Are You?" Quiz is totally free, it's only 17 questions, and there's a link at the end to bring you back to this article after you're finished!
3. You know and SHOW what arouses you.
Maria knows what she wants in the bedroom (or kitchen) (or kitchen-as-bedroom). So does Pierre. And both of them are willing to say – very clearly – what they want. Together, they are délicieux. Need a translation? They could eat each other up. In fact, they do so regularly.
Now answer these 2 questions, beautiful creature...
- On a scale of 1 (not) to 5 (red-hot), I know what turns me on.
- True or False: I can tell or show my partner what arouses me.
4. You don't allow guilt to come between you and the one you adore...
Does Maria feel guilty for asking for what she wants (which may include actual food for dinner)?
Nope, not at all. In fact, she's pretty crafty at mixing what she wants with... what she wants. Hot dinner and hot man? Looks like she'll get both.
Of course, Maria and Pierre's story is more lighthearted than you may be feeling right now...
When you're walled in by old or limiting beliefs and attitudes about intimacy and sex, or continuing to feel guilt and/or shame about former issues around sex and intimacy, you can't enjoy the luxuriant pleasures of romance with your one-and-only.
Now answer these 3 questions, foxy woman...
- Yes or No: Do you have open, unresolved issues that cause you to have guilty feelings about enjoying intimacy with your lover?
- Yes or No: Have you taken the time to name those feelings and figure out where they came from?
- Yes or No: Do you need to get help in addressing those feelings of guilt?
Are you ready to come into your sensual superpowers?
If you really want to blow his mind, and leave absolutely no doubt that YOU are the most amazing sex goddess he’ll ever have the pleasure of knowing, you need to have a sensual toolkit brimming with sexy and naughty tricks.
And I don’t mean silly magazine fluff or cartoons of the position-of-the-month, but techniques that reach right into the heart of his sexuality. That speak directly, and specifically, to how he sees himself as a man.
If you are ready to take the next step, click HERE to watch this video (Warning: This is NOT something you want overheard at work!)
OR, if you don't want to be overheard, you can click HERE for the article version without sound.
Darling, you are beautiful, sexy, and powerful, and I can't wait to see you rule the relationship jungle like the sensual tigress you are.
Claire, I really hope that, somewhere, in a darker corner of the Internet, you’re writing erotica stories. If you’re not, You. Should. Start. Right. Now. Because that scene was incredibly hot!!!!
The rest of the article is really helpful as well. It reminds me of how far I’ve already come (from slightly traumatized and grappling with body image issues, to accepting and loving myself) and of how much more room for improvement there still is. I needed that reminder, thank you!
The only thing I would like to add is that… sometimes, the order of causality can be inverse, at least for the first two elements (as in, self love and sensuality can develop as a result of positive validation). If I had read this very article four years ago, I would have felt hopeless and frustrated and sad, because I wouldn’t have been able to simply start loving myself and being sensual out of the blue. For me personally, what worked was getting myself in situations where I could receive palpable evidence of my desirability; being admired and lusted after by someone else was the proof that I somehow needed, in order to really start loving myself and exploring my sensuality. I know this is not sustainable (and it can become unhealthy in the long run, if you only depend on it), and still, when internal motivation feels impossible, a little bit of an external confidence-booster can be the exact jumpstart that you need. At least it was for me, until I managed to notice my own delicious amazingness and sensuality… And after this first step, it’s much easier to put into practice what Claire so beautifully shares here. I hope my sharing this might reassure someone who (like me some years ago) feels that they will never be able to love themselves.
Hi, foxy Julia. I love having you comment on here. You add SO much insight and thoughtfulness. YES to everything she said, readers!
AND you’ve uncovered one of my secret fantasies — I’ve written a few little pieces of erotica (what fun it is!) and someday… Maybe more? 🙂