Have you ever been marvelously in love with a man when suddenly, you began to wonder if the two of you have a future together?
The big problem with ASKING HIM if you should wait for him is…
If you ASK, and he’s UNSURE about the future of your relationship, you suddenly start to have a thousand doubts…
Should you wait for him? Or should you start the breakup process, so that eventually – after many tears, and more than a few new scars on your tender heart – you can move on with your life?
Ugh. Those moments are so incredibly painful.
The good news is that you DON’T have to endure that uncertainty.
There are some SIMPLE THINGS you can DO to ensure you never have to endlessly wonder…
Sound crazy? Keep reading…
“I have been in an exclusive relationship for 10 months. We have had many difficult moments and our relationship has been growing a LOT. I’m sooo in love with him and our relationship is day by day better. We had a talk about marriage but he isn’t too sure about that. I have some doubt and some things that maybe scare me too.
I don’t know how much I have to wait until we make a decision about marriage or if I am wasting my time and I have to go out with another guys…I’m freaking out because I don’t wanna be hurt or disappointed.” – Isabela
PS: Thanks a lot. Sorry for my bad English but I speak Spanish better. 😊
Hola bonita! Okay, that’s about the limit of my Spanish (I googled “How to say “Hello, pretty lady”), and I hope that makes you feel a little better, girlfriend. Your English is just fine!
Here’s how to begin figuring out whether or not to wait on him…
Normally I tell women NOT to wait on a man, but that’s not a hard and fast rule. However, if you are going to wait for him, then you should have the following things in place:
1. Know your timeline
In other words, you know how long you’re willing to invest in a man before you decide he is or isn’t serious (or marriage material, or ready for a wedding) and break up and move on.
2. Communicate that timeline with him
You need to be lovingly clear and let him know what that timeline is so that he can make his own decisions.
This is NOT about ultimatums, threats, or drawing a line in the sand. It’s simple, heartfelt, clear communication.
“I love spending time with you. You are such an amazing man! And I hope in the next two years or so I’ll be waking up next to the man I love every morning, knowing he’s going to be there for me no matter what, knowing I’ll have the honor of loving and supporting him for the rest of our lives together. I’m wondering if that man will be you. What do you want your life to look like two years from now?”
GREAT RESOURCE: How to set and communicate your dating goals and timeline
The scary thing is not the waiting, it’s the fear that you’ll get an answer that you won’t like.
SHOCKING WORDS Men are Dying to Hear... (You'll be surprised and delighted!)
3. NOW. Ask yourself these 10 questions…
- Is he deeply attracted to you?
- Do the two of you have similar foundational values?
- Does he make you a priority in his life?
- Do you feel amazing and strong and wonderful when you’re around him?
- Do you trust him completely?
- Do the people most important to you like him?
- Is he financially solid (or working to get there)?
- Does he want what’s best for you?
- Have you successfully been through some difficult things together, and come out better for it?
- Is he mature and willing to grow?
If you answered yes to most or all these questions, you are NOT “wasting your time” with him right now. Choosing to wait for him is your smartest move.
If your man scored terribly on these 10 questions, then yes, it’s time to gently break things off so that you can both be free to move into your future. It will really be the healthiest thing for you. And you should go ahead and break free, because you don’t want to delay meeting the man who WILL love and treasure your heart like the rare gem it is…
Girlfriend, maybe it’s time for YOU to CRUSH the barriers that prevent him from COMMITTING to YOU…
Shock him out of his apathy.
Make him hurry to capture your heart for GOOD, and make you HIS forever.
And NO, this isn’t about being some kind of sex siren (although he’ll definitely WANT you). It’s BIGGER and more powerful…
Scientific research has found CERTAIN PHRASES create feelings of euphoria in the human brain, much like addictive drugs. These words and phrases can be used to make a man experience attachment, love, and long-term devotion.
Kelsey Diamond spent 3 years researching these unique “emotional trigger phrases,” and built them into a complete guidebook called Obsession Phrases.
Watch this video (Patrick does the video, but it’s about Kelsey’s work) to see how Kelsey helped hundreds of women at $300 an hour with one-on-one coaching, and then turned it into a course for much less than that.
It doesn’t matter if you’re married or single, what your body looks like, or how old you are – if you want to make a man crave you, these “obsession phrases” work for everyone.
The Monogamy Awakener Phrase is most effective on the guy who just won’t commit. Dating any commitment phobes? This is the Phrase you want to use.
The Whiz-Bang Phrase instills in his mind just how valuable you are to him. Once he hears the whiz-bang phrase he will start to see you as the most important person in his life that he never wants to lose.
The Attraction Spinner Phrase is perfect for a woman who feels she is being used. If you think he only sees you as a friend or a fling, the Attraction Spinner Phrase will have him completely open up his heart and mind toward you.
You’ll also find phrases for use in situations like
• Getting your ex back (Love Cocktail Phrase)
• Making him fall in love (Subconscious Bonding Phrase)
• Keeping him from straying (Permanent Obsession Phrase)
Take a look at the video, try one of these phrases out tonight, and watch to see what happens!